Month: December 2017

Mother Work in Men

On this Sunday morning before Christmas, listening to the music, I find my heart wide open. I am often sentimental in this season, I have always had a tender heart, many things bring me to tears. This conversation has moved me greatly, and the comments, particularly from the women … thank you Jen Silver & Bethany Cashman … have helped open me to some painful places inside. I was on the NY streets at 6, in a street gang at 9, suffered physical & sexual abuse at home, and it has taken me many years of excruciatingly hard work… Read more »

The Activist Mommy Essay

Wow, a potent voice, and an important perspective. Lots of passion can get in the way, without much sensitivity to the women who are truly victims. But she does blow the whistle on the ‘shadowy victimhood’ that weaves itself through this #metoo movement. Maybe that’s inevitable, as everything has its light and shadow. What is important is this: a major root of male abuse of power has been flushed out of the shadows. It is indeed bigger than anyone imagined, but honestly, I am not surprised at all. I have worked with men long enough to know the beasts… Read more »

Thank you, Sisters

Jen, Valerie, Kaia, Alexa, Sheri, Bethany, and all the women & men who have been part of this ongoing conversation on TheMenSchool’ page here. First, I THANK all the women here, who have weighed in on such a painful, complex, &  terrifying topic, and done so with fierceness, clarity, passion, intelligence & grace. You have modeled for our community how to truly stand in love & truth … I am grateful & humbled. I want to say this directly: I hear you, I hear & honor your perspectives, I hear your anger, I hear your outrage, I hear your… Read more »

Men’s Initiation

The ancient ones knew that both boys and girls needed an initiatory rite of passage to consciously transition to manhood and womanhood, so that they could take their rightful place in the tribe and village. One of the important learnings for the boys was how to treat women with respect, how to be good to the earth (mother), and how to use his sexual body in a good way. Our postmodern culture has been void of this essential rite for many hundreds of years. As a result, abuse of women and the earth is rampant. The result of this… Read more »

From Hunt to Hearth

From Hunt to Hearth: Crossing the Threshold In the archetypal realm, a man enters the world to do battle, conquer foes, create fame & mis/fortune, and bring back resources to support his family, tribe, community. He wears armor, wields his sword, and protects his women, children, and stuff. So as archetypes continuously act through us, men still do this battle, as do more and more women. (Welcome to our world.) From 8 to 5 or more, men are out there doing battle, not necessarily with life-threatening foes, but with a vertical hierarchical picture that there is only one winner.… Read more »