Category: Contemporary Issues

The Feminine in a Man

This is what the feminine looks like in This man: As I notice a fear arising, I imagine the courage it takes for someone to ‘come out’. And so I thank my gay brothers … esp Greg Gondron & David Govaker … for challenging & supporting me to clean up my homophobic imprint. It will never go away, but each clear and fearless declaration reclaims more territory. So here goes … 🌈 My Emotional Landscape: Many of my feelings are messy, uncomfortable, and painful, bringing gut-wrenching wails and buckets of tears. In no part of me do I believe that… Read more »

The Wisdom of the Ancients

Excerpts from The Sacred Tree by the Four Worlds Center from the Native American Indian Traditional Code of Ethics * Each morning upon rising and each evening before sleeping, give thanks for the life within you and for all life, for the good things the Creator has given you, and for the opportunity to grow a little more each day. Consider your thoughts and actions of the past day and seek for the courage and strength to be a better person. Seek for the things that will benefit others (everyone). * Respect. Respect means “To feel or show honor… Read more »

Nurturant Fathers

As a boy, I learned to interact in the world through engaging my father. He was my liaison outside the home. I learned how to play, work, gather information about the natural world, its rules, laws, conflicts, competition. I learned how to build, create, value and appraise the overwhelming experiences that lay outside the relative safety of home. When my father was patient and encouraging, it was okay for me to take risks, make mistakes, test my environment, become an active participant in my life. I loved the thrill of being tossed up in the air and caught in… Read more »

A New Way of Being

As we men learn to cultivate our own tenderness, we become more adept at the language of relatedness. Our wives and partners have been asking that from us for years, and we have struggled to hear them. Our antiquated beliefs about masculinity, our homophobia, rage and shame, addictions, our increasing desensitization to our own pain … all have numbed us to our deep need for close and loving contact with other human beings. As a man, a husband and father, I have released the old beliefs about what a man is supposed to be. In so doing, I love… Read more »

Patriarchy and Women in the Workplace

While we have come far in the last 50 years … tremendous technological growth, global diversity awareness, economic growth for 2nd and 3rd world nations … the American workplace still remains a bastion of the old patriarchal values. And nowhere is this more evident than in the political arena. Patriarchy is not about gender. It is about a set of beliefs, attitudes, and practices that affect both men and women. It is about the masculine principle gone rogue. In the political and corporate world, the interactions remain aggressively power seeking, defensive, hierarchical, homophobic, competitive, and emotionally disconnected from people… Read more »

Paradox

The Sacred Masculine is the vertical axis … the sun and sky, grounded in the earth. It is active presence, direct, initiating, boundaried, a sword, the cock. The Sacred Feminine is the horizontal axis … connective, unifying, fluid, open. It is the ocean, food, flowers, the womb. Within the Male … is the Masculine and Feminine. Within the Female … is the Masculine and Feminine. Love and Truth … to heal the world is truly within our power. Shadow and Light … we are always Shadow and Light in 4 dimensions. It is our wild nature … that connects… Read more »

Change: Who Me?

It is a cosmic law that the only constant is change.  We see changes in everything everyday, we marvel at the way life continually unfolds its splendor and horror.  Order births chaos births order, ad infinitum.  We see ourselves change over time … bodies, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, political opinions, economic situations, relationships.  Time changes us … child, teen, young adult, middle age, elder, death.  Each is a passage, each changes us whether we like it or not.  Changes are multidimensional … effecting us in body, mind, spirit … across time. So why, when we see ourselves acting in ways… Read more »

Mentorship for Young Men

Hey Man … are you still trying to figure out who you are, and what you’re doing here? Do the traditional markers of male success leave you feeling not good enough, hungry, and wanting? Do you wake in the middle of the night with a deep ache in your chest? Welcome to the inner life of ‘middle age’ men … late 20’s, 30’s, early 40’s. There is nothing wrong with you, man, it’s just that no one has ever talked to you about these feelings or this angst. Most of us grow up in this ManBox, full of shit and false promises.… Read more »

Return of Sacred Male Initiation

In 1984, Bill Kauth had an idea to create a workshop for men. Bill saw that women were evolving, and men were struggling. The spiritual awakening potential of the New Warrior Training Adventure is now held by the ManKind Project International, a global educational and training organization. Kauth, Rich Tosi, & Ron Hering did not know that this ‘divinely inspired workshop’ would one day become a call to reclaim sacred male initiation for our time. Through this work, they saw men awaken, as the work touched a deep unspoken need in the masculine soul. Mircea Eliade an early 20th century historian and… Read more »

Millennials Today

Having 2 millennial sons, I see some of what Simon Sinek describes. And I also see them as hard-working, not entitled, with manners, and good social skills. While my beloved and I surely made our fair share of mistakes, we were both kind of old-school in our parenting. Especially me, as I was in my late 40’s when our sons were born, and already deep into men’s work. The values of integrity & truth-telling, accountability & follow-through, hard work, even emotional literacy … they learned these from us because we have been practicing them for a very long time.… Read more »