Month: August 2017

The Story Behind my Workshop, “Leaving my Father’s House”

For the past 19+ years, I have facilitated over 30 women’s coaching workshops called “Leaving my Father’s House.” Here is the original inspiration for this teaching. Healing Wounds from the Patriarchy In 1993, I read a book by Marion Woodman, a Jungian analyst from Toronto entitled “Leaving My Father’s House”. It focused on 3 women who come to terms with their own deep feminine by healing their issues with the patriarchy. The book moved me deeply, and I realized that my own gender healing could not be complete until I could come to terms with the patriarchal voice that… Read more »

Understanding Emotional Literacy

In my work with with men, women, and couples  over the past three decades, I have refined my toolset to offer the best practices possible for each person’s personal development. One of the most valuable tools is a deep embodiment of Emotional Literacy. “Emotional literacy is made up of ‘the ability to understand your emotions, the ability to listen to others and empathize with their emotions, and the ability to express emotions productively.” Source In my teaching, Emotional Literacy creates an interior alignment of the head-heart-gut-sex. It is a congruence of thinking-feeling-words, and actions. Increasing emotional intelligence or literacy empowers you to… Read more »

My Commitments to my Clients

In my coaching practice with men, women, and couples, I feel the importance of sharing my commitments for our work together. My Commitments I have great love, compassion, and a fierce dedication to truth. I live a sacred marriage with my beloved. I have 45 years in this work. I have been leading healing circles for 30 years. I am a husband, father, leader, friend, ally, and citizen. I am accountable, I have integrity, I work hard for those I serve. I have dedicated my life’s purpose to this healing process. I am balanced in the Sacred Masculine &… Read more »

The Sacred Masculine

As I teach about the sacred masculine in my men’s coaching programs, I’ve discovered that different people have different definitions of the sacred masculine. To Me, the Deep, Sacred Masculine is: The vertical axis, the sun & sky, grounded in the earth It is stable, unwavering, and fiercely present It is the good father, dependable friend, protector, and provider It is the seed, the tree, the rocks, and the center pole It is the initiator, the action, the doing It is clear, direct, hard, penetrative, boundaried It is a container, an arrow, a hammer, a plow, and a sword… Read more »

The OLD Masculine vs. the NEW Masculine

In my men’s coaching work, I often begin with definitions of masculinity. What does it mean to be a man? There are old, outmoded definitions, and there is the new masculine which is sacred masculinity. The OLD Masculine A man who instinctively feel in competition with other men. A man who is in touch with his power, but does not know his feeling nature. A man who is in touch with his feeling nature, but does not know or trust his power. A man who does not have intimate access to BOTH his fierceness AND his tenderness. A man… Read more »

Women’s Coaching

A recent New York Times article discusses important topics in women’s empowerment including loneliness, competition, and deeply rooted barriers. In my 30+ years of providing women’s coaching services, I often hear the themes the author expresses here: Women are often seen as dependable, less often as visionary. Women tend to be less comfortable with self-promotion — and more likely to be criticized when they do grab the spotlight. Men remain threatened by assertive women. Most women are not socialized to be unapologetically competitive. Some women get discouraged and drop out along the way. And many are disproportionately penalized for stumbles. Women… Read more »